Do you ever find yourself feeling less motivated and you have no idea why? It is like you lost your spark and you need it back and you do not know how. Trust me, we all have been there one day or the other and we all feel for each other regarding these moments. With that in mind, after reading several books and watching several YouTube videos, we gathered here a few steps that can help bring that self-motivation back to put you on your feet!
Here is a list of what we have gathered:
1. Make a deal with yourself:
How does it make me feel?
Making a deal with yourself helps you in overcoming several obstacles that mostly the brain ends up creating. For starters setting up a deadline for yourself to have something done will help you with ending your procrastination!
You need to strike a deal and say, “after I am done reading these three chapters, I earned my walk in the park and some good ice cream.”
2. Act like it:
Ever heard of the phrase “fake it until you make it”? well this is exactly that! If you don’t feel motivated or enthusiastic then act like it. The strange thing is that within a few minutes you start to feel motivated, positive or enthusiastic for real.
The brain does work in mysterious ways.
3. Ask uplifting questions in the morning:
Once you are up and about, ask yourself these five empowering three-part questions this way:
What am I ______ about in my life right now?
What about it makes me _______?
Put in your own value in the blank space. For instance, a couple of my questions are:
What am I happy about in my life right now?
What am I excited about in my life right now?
It’s important that you really feel how it makes you feel. When I think about the last part about what makes me happy right now, I really feel it.
These morning questions are great because the way they are set up makes you recognize things you take for granted and then they really get you to feel those positive feelings.
4. Move the goalposts:
Set a goal in mind and do everything you can to achieve that goal! This will motivate you much more than small goals. A big goal has a big effect and can create a lot of motivation.
5. Do something small and create a flow:
Finishing small tasks like cleaning your desk, paying your bills, or even washing the dishes are enough to get started.
When you have finished that small task, you’ll feel more alert and ready to go do the next thing. You just to get started to get motivated.
So, if you really don’t feel like doing anything, start with something small and work your way out up.
6. Do the toughest task first:
This will ease a lot of your day-to-day worries and boost your self-confidence for the rest of the day. Once that hard obstacle is out of your way, all the rest will unfold without a hinge!
7. Compare yourself with yourself:
It is very demotivating to compare yourself to others, we always tend to forget that we do not always know the full story of what they are going through.
With that we should compare ourselves with ourselves and keep our focus on us. We focus on our results trying to find out ways on how we can improve them.
Reviewing results is important to where you have gone wrong in the past to avoid similar missteps further on.
But it’s also important because it’s a great motivator to see how much you have improved and how far you have come. Often you can be pleasantly surprised when you do such a review.
8. Remember your successes:
Every chance you got, remind yourself with all the good things you have accomplished and done throughout your life! Write them down, read them out loud for yourself, focus on them every time you start to think about your mistakes.
Consider using a journal of some kind since it’s easy to forget your successes.
9. Get out of your comfort zone:
Facing new challenges and working your way out of your comfort zone can shape your personality in so many ways and all being positive! It will give you a real boost in your motivation and help in experiencing new things. It is one step closer to getting out of your demotivated phase.
10. Don’t fear failure:
Everyone who ever succeeded in something had to witness a million failures. No one ever succeeds on the first try, there are always ups and downs in your life and you need to be prepared to learn from them rather than let them stop you. Failing brings you a step closer to succeeding and reaching your goal!
As Michael Jordan said: “I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”
11. Focus on the positive:
Most negative thoughts originate in our mindset rather than from facts or the actual event taking place. It is our interpretation of the situation and it ends up affecting our mood in ways we could never predict. With that in mind, whenever you find yourself thinking negatively remind yourself that you do not know the whole truth and that thinking positively will help you rather than destruct you.
You might not be able to be positive all the time no matter what happens. But I think most of us can improve on our positive thinking and the results it can lead us to. Perhaps more than you realize right now.
12. Make use of your creativity:
Take out a piece of paper. Write at the top of the page what area in your life you would like to have more ideas about. Perhaps you want ideas to earn more money or become a healthier person.
Then brainstorm until you have written down 20 ideas on that topic. Then try for 10 more.
Not all ideas will be good. But some will.
And as you make use of your creativity you not only discover useful ideas. You also discover just how creative you can be if you try and how motivating and great that feels.
13. Find out what makes you happy:
Figure what makes you happy and do it, always create time for it. That is your escape after a long and hard day, that is the thing that will help you not give up after many failures. Always remember that being happy helps boost you in every possible way!
14. Think outside your box:
Don’t imagine the future from the box of what you have now. Just because your mind is in box of previous experiences doesn’t mean that’s the limits of the world.
Your possibilities are much larger.
Create the future from the now and from nothing rather than your past to experience bigger changes with fewer limitations than you would if you created it from what you can see from your box.
15. Make each day count:
We don’t have all the time in the world. So, focus on today and do the things you really want to do. Never let time get wasted because you will never get that time back. Dwelling on the past, or mistakes that already took place will get you nowhere and will just wait time you could have otherwise used in a better way. Always move forward and find ways to do so, the only thing you have is your present and future so leave the past behind.
I hope these tips help you move forward in your life and find the motivation you need. Remember the more motivated and happier you are, the more you will glow and grow!